About This Bundle
 
Attachment theory began with John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth observing how young children responded to separation and reunion with their caregivers. Decades of research since have shown that the patterns formed in early childhood tend to persist into adulthood, shaping how we love, who we choose, how we handle conflict, how we trust, and even how we relate to God. The good news: attachment patterns are not fixed. With awareness, intention, and corrective experiences, people move toward earned secure
attachment across the lifespan.
 
These twelve worksheets walk you through the core of attachment work as an individual practice. Where the Marriage bundle treats attachment in the context of one specific relationship, this bundle treats attachment as a personal topic: how your style formed, how it shows up across all your relationships (romantic, friendships, family, work, faith), and the work of earning secure attachment. It draws from Bowlby, Ainsworth, Mary Main, Sue Johnson, Daniel Siegel, and the broader attachment research field. Christianity has carried a deep wisdom about attachment for two thousand years, even before the term existed. The biblical picture of a Father who runs to meet the prodigal, of a Christ who weeps with friends, of a Spirit who never leaves, is the picture of secure attachment offered as a divine reality. Earning secure attachment in human relationships is, for Christians, also a deepening responsiveness to the secure attachment that is already extended from God. The horizontal and the vertical work together.
 
What's Included:
 
Bundle description: Twelve worksheets for understanding your attachment style as an individual. Where the Marriage bundle treats attachment in the context of one specific relationship, this bundle treats attachment as a personal topic: how your style formed in childhood, how it shows up across all your relationships (romantic, friendships, family, work, faith), and the research-supported pathway to earning secure attachment in adulthood. Drawing from Bowlby, Ainsworth, Mary Main, Sue Johnson, Daniel Siegel, and the broader attachment research field, integrated with Christian theology of secure relationship with God.
01 Introduction to Attachment Theory — Foundational concepts: secure base, internal working model, the four styles, activation, and earned security. Why attachment patterns shape adult life across multiple domains.
02 The Four Attachment Styles in Detail — Secure, anxious (preoccupied), avoidant (dismissing), and disorganised (fearful). Each style's internal experience, behaviour, strengths, common origins, and approximate prevalence.
03 Identifying Your Style — A comprehensive 32-item self-assessment with eight statements per style, scoring instructions, and structured interpretation including what to do for blends.
04 How Your Style Formed — Tracing your attachment pattern back to its origins. Caregiver patterns that produce each style and structured prompts for examining your own early environment.
05 Attachment in Romantic Relationships — How each style shows up in dating and partnership, common pairings (anxious-avoidant, secure-insecure), and growth edges by style for romantic life.
06 Attachment in Friendships and Family — How attachment shapes friendships, sibling relationships, and adult relationship with parents. Includes the often-overlooked carry-over of childhood patterns into family-of-origin dynamics.
07 Attachment in Work and Authority — How your style shapes relationships with bosses, mentors, colleagues, and institutions. Workplace patterns by style and the tendency to relate to institutions as attachment objects.
08 Attachment in Your Relationship with God — How attachment patterns shape the felt experience of God, regardless of formal belief. The most overlooked area for many believers, with concrete pathways toward corrective experience.
09 Activated and Deactivated States — Recognising when your attachment system is triggered. Common activators, what activation looks like by style, and a practical six-step approach to working with activation in real time.
10 Earning Secure Attachment — The four research-supported pathways to earned security: corrective relationships, coherent narrative, attachment-informed therapy, and spiritual attachment. Includes Adult Attachment Interview-style narrative prompts.
11 Healing Attachment Wounds — The specific wound beneath each style (inconsistent love for anxious, unwelcomed need for avoidant, fear at the source of comfort for disorganised) and the healing pathway for each.
12 Living from Secure Attachment — Capstone integration. Markers of earned security with self-rating, what earned security looks like across daily life, conflict, solitude, faith, body, and generations. Closes with a blessing for the long road.